Look for a job that feeds your passions, values, and talents, rather than simply giving you a big office or title. Consider the concept of “good work”—a job that fits your identity, allows you to pursue excellence, and benefits society. Put a high priority on working with people you like.
Consider your work hours
Avoid long commutes Lessons for you — Try to find a job in your neighborhood or within an easy, fast commute (no more than 30 minutes) and you’ll set yourself up for minimal angst.
Set goals — In both in work and in private matters, set quarterly and annual goals and monitor your progress.
Prioritize friends and family — Curate a circle of at least three friends with whom you can have meaningful conversations, you can call on a bad day for help and are generally happy. Make contributions of time and effort which benefit the community and family members. Where possible, choose forms of activity that reinforce interactions with others, such as dancing or even singing,- social events, sports, cards. Make sure that these are active pursuits, not just passive things like watching TV.
Create a Moai — This is a circle of friends who commit to support each other for the long run.
Hang out with happy people
Join a club — The idea here is to make a commitment to some club, volunteer group, or social organization—a sphere of people with common interests that compels you to show up regularly, either because of organizational rules or out of peer pressure (if not simply out of the pleasure you gain from the associations).
Look more than skin deep — While his big muscles and her pretty face may sing virtues on the surface, a sense of humor and compassion are more likely to keep you in the relationship for the long run.
Marry someone similar to you — If you like folk dancing, running marathons, or volunteering at church, find a mate who also likes those things. Look for partners who make as much money as you do, or at least are inclined to share what they have.
Avoid cohabitation — A study that looked at a large number of successful and unsuccessful marriages found that living with a prospective spouse seems to make for a shorter, lower-quality marriage.
Be realistic about the joys of parenthood — Contrary to conventional wisdom, having children does not automatically bring greater happiness. Along with its many rewards, parenthood also brings additional stress from financial, relationship, and responsibility issues. The good news for parents is that happiness seems to rebound when children turn 18.
Adopt a Pet
Create a Pride Shrine Find a place in your house to celebrate family history and accomplishments. In my home, I built a display table for mementos and dedicated wall space in one hallway for family photos. Now, every time I walk by, I’m reminded of good times with loved ones.
Bring Nature In --
Optimize Your Bedroom for Sleep
Favor Porches over the Deck outback — The happiest Americans interact socially six yours. If you’re facing the street—instead of the backyard-- when you’re relaxing outside, your more likely to see your friends and say hello to a passing stranger.
Create a Flow Room Designate a corner of the room a place where you can meditate, with cushions and whatever icons that help you downshift (e.g. candles, religious statues, a Buddha). Line the room with shelves to store and display your favorite games and the things you need for hobbies. Install a quality music system.
Natural Light Several studies show that we natural light improves our mood, especially on a sunny day, and in the morning. So, install big windows and skylights throughout the house, especially in south-facing exposures.
Music — Invest in a home wide music system and keep music on in the background. Sonos is a great option.
Declutter — DESIGN YOUR FINANCIAL SECURITY
Enroll in an automatic savings or investment plan
Reconsider Your Credit Card
Gift experiences, not things
Make Financially Savvy Friends (or mates)
Learn the art of likability If you were born likable, you’re set. If not, make the effort to learn social skills, such as being a good listener. Try talking to relative strangers on your commute. Act extroverted, even if you’re an introvert. Why do it: Smiling, trusting, and giving others your time have been shown by research to create happiness. It can also break down stereotypes about strangers.
Focus on others
Savor life Spend time anticipating some positive future event. You might write something in your journal about how you’re looking forward to a get together, vacation, or other joyful occasion. Looking forward to something good strengthens your sense of optimism, which is known to enhance happiness.