Australian teenagers are not always happy. Not quite how Taiwanese teenagers think they are. Really not.
Most of the time they are ok. But a lot of times they are stressed. They encounter drug problems, alcohol addictions, friends problems or even bullying. I see a lot of that in my work because unlike instrument learning, singing is quite an intimate thing. If they are not mentally in the right state of mind, I can feel it straight away.
I always have kids telling me they are upset and frustrated. Tired, depressed. On the outside, you can never tell. They are all so good looking, well spoken and confident. All from very good family with the top private school education. But they hit puberty like a storm!
What do I do? I listen. Being a therapist for many years I do have a way of talking to them without them realising it. Sometimes I feel so stressed at the end of the day. You feel more like a psychologist than a teacher.
You know I am always a very goal oriented, show off kind of person. I set goal for everyone that is exam after exam, competition after competition. I like to see them shine on stage and I like to see them feeling good about themselves. I thought that was what they want too.
No. I asked most of my teenagers why are you still here after all these years. They told me about their emotional journey and how this helps them. I feel quite privileged to be part of their growing up journey.
All these, shall soon pass.
Everything is going to be all ok kids.
Listen to what they said about the big dick energy. I really can tell who has the silence confidence of big dick energy. What it is. Who has it and why we want it. BDE it is called.
My 17 year old student Lucas has that solid silence confidence for sure. Yes Obama and Prince Harry has it too. Basically it’s a quiet confidence they hold themselves . I always knew it but not know how to describe it. The reason they call it BDE is as if you have big dick that you are secretly very pleased with yourself that you don’t need to hang it out to show people.
When I heard them talking about it in this podcast I was like yes that’s what it is! BDE.
There is no value judgement for BDE. But my personal view is that any energy is better than no energy . Have a listen (from 10:15 in the podcast) . Let’s all aspire to have it.
I am not putting this here just to show off. We all have times that we get frustrated with the process of achieving what we want in life.
Putting the comment from the Toastmaster association here is to remind myself that those frustrating time shall pass. For myself to move on to the next level.
I am going for the next level. Aiming for district, national and perhaps international public speaking competition. You never know.
We are never too old to do things. When you are not doing things then that's when you are getting old.
人生就這麼一朝。我現在是不想教的學生我就是不教家長再怎麼不爽或是學生再怎麼求我我就是不教。我要做我喜歡的事。但是每件我做的事情我都會做到最好。I am sure tomorrow will take care of itself.
當你聽到這樣的消息的時候所有你身邊的事情都不重要 Suddenly everything is in perspective.
I always won singing competitions when I was in my teens and 20s. Addicted to the adrenaline of competitions. Being a professional I can’t do singing competitions anymore. So I turn the focus to public speaking. Tonight I won the 2018 Best Speaker of the Year Award. I want to prove that even with an accent you can still beat Aussies to be the best public speaker. In Australia, everything is possible. You set a goal and work hard towards it. If you win it’s awesome if you don’t you are always better than you were before.
#It's exciting to receive this present that looks so Susie! I totally love it
I was helping a friend with the presentation so this was the thank you gift I got. Oh I love the blingbling. Even it's freezing outside I will wear it straightaway!
Aussies don't know that we can't give people shoes as present. You also can't give people clocks (that means you want them to die haha). Giving shoes as gift means you want them to get out of your life. I am very sure this is not what my friend meant. So I gave him one dollar as if I bought the shoes from him for one dollar.
Highlight of my week. my bling bling shoes present!
I must have talking about Taiwanese hotpot before. In winter and almost every weekend, we will have this. Perhaps at someone's house, perhaps in the restaurant.
Hotpot is the food symbolised family, prosperity and togetherness. A comfort food for us and a very satisfying one.
Sometimes I feel sorry for aussies that they never understand what's behind the simple food of hotpot. For them this might look like a giant soup that everyone shares! haha
Yesterday someone made the most authentic peanut sweet dessert soup too. We ate non stop until 10 pm by the time I got home it was nearly 11 pm. Always a great night of food, family, friends in a chilling winter night. Looking forward to it every week.
Probably the only thing good about winter. I can't wait for the summer to come.
In my years of teaching I have never encountered any problems with parents not paying.
I issued invoice at the first week of the term and most of the people do it by second week paying the whole term off. Occasionally you will have one or two overlooking the invoice or having financial difficulty and I never make a scene out of it. I just do a reminder, send the invoice without saying a word. Straightaway it's done.
I don't like to think this is a transaction of business. The fact everyone is paying on time is an act of respect. Respect of my time so that I don't have to chase account or work on any administration matter. Having said that I am quite an organised, matter of fact person. If I need to chase the account then I will no longer be interested in teaching the student.
The most important value for teacher is appreciation and respect. If the respect is no mutual then I will make sure you go. I have no problem replacing the next one out of waiting list straight away.
Thank you everyone for being good parents with respect.
I like to make sure all my students know each other. Possibly do duet or trio together. Music is fun that way. My worst nightmare is to go and see a concert that everyone just goes up quietly does their thing, back to their seat. Then go home. I want to see lots of colour, lots of good looking people, lots of good music and lots of fun, laughters and cheers.
I would like to see my showcase to motivate and give good pressure to students because no one wants to look bad when there are two of you performing together.
I put lots of thoughts into designing program like this. People have no idea how hard that it. You want to concert be short but you don't want to work with others? Then you better go. Good luck finding a teacher who can cover all your wishes.
Everyone has different voice type, different personality and ability. Everyone also has different commitments of million things they do. And our lesson is always one on one. There is little opportunity for us to rehearse so my program has to be realistic too.
I understand the concert is fun so everyone wants to participate. Even when it clashes with other things they still want to come. So I get questions like this "Can I go first?" " Can I leave first?" " Can I do with my friend cause we can rehearse with each other? " " Can I not do with him cause he is not good and so and so is better I like her".
I get very cranky when I hear it. I will tell you why.
Please think about this, "What are we really teaching kids?"
Yes we are teaching kids to be good performers with good technique and good presence. We also try to teach kids to work with others. But all these are not the most important things for me.
I like to teach kids to NOT TO BE SELFISH.
It's a duet concert and you want to do a solo first?
Firstly people don't understand there is a way we design a showcase program. The opening is always starting strong with experience singers who can open with power and flair. The arrangement of the program is not depends on who can stay longer who needs to leave early. It depends on the quality of my students there and what are the songs we have there to show. So it mixes well and always keeps it interesting for the audience.
Please imagine you are the other kids in the audience. They are following what Susie asked them to do. Then they see you go in doing your thing and leave straightaway without a care of what they do.
This is not what I teach you for. The last thing I want in the studio is self centre kids who want things their way.
When you want to do something, you commit to it totally then you will succeed.
If you have school musical rehearsal on, you go to school music rehearsal because without you there it will be very inconvenient to others in school. If you choose to come to my concert, you stay and watch and support others.
Whatever you give to the world, you will receive in abundance.
I want to teach kids this because I teach your children way more than just music.
If you want to work with me, choose one.
And do it the best you can with that choice.